Relationship Tips

Resolved Question: relationship problems.. ? 7 Mar 2010, 3:01 pm

my boyfriend & i hve been together for almost a year& a half. i love him to death,& he loves me.(im 16, he is 18)we hve gone through one break up, bcz i had cheated.he has lked another girl, a lot.before we had met, he smoked (weed). he had stopped smoking by his choice, bcz he doesn’t lk bringing girls into drug problemsi was a virgin when we met,& i gave him my first time. he wasn’t a virgin.he has told me tht i’m his first love, and he is mine as well.for the past few months, i feel like his love for me is dying.i don;t even know where to start about how to explain this.ive heard rumors from my friends; that he had been tlking about smoking; had been buying,& smoking with his friends.i asked him multiples times face to face if he had mentioned anything lk tht. he said yea, tht he tlks about smoking but hasn’t smoked since our break up in september.so, about a week ago, i asked him when he came over to my house if he smokes. he asked if i rlly wanted to knw the truth,& i said yes. he told me tht he had never stopped smoking since we had broken up.i started crying right on the spot.& it felt lk he didnt even care. i feel so stupid tht he had hid tht from me, but at the same time i knew. i cld tell when he had a buzz around me;& i wld act different.but, i nvr let myself believe it. i can’t say i was mad at him; bcz i’m used to how he always does stuff lk this.ive also heard from my friend directly tht her sister has a class with my bf. her sister asked my bf if he is in love with me;& loves me.my bf told my friend’s sister tht he loves me, but cannot say he is in love with me.the moment i heard, i confronted him face to face& he denied it. he said tht he is in love with me, and loves me to death.all the time; i feel depressed& feel lk i hve no one to depend on in the world.eversince i hve entered highschool; i hve realized tht ive become more independent;& hve overall changed.it also feels tht he avoids me as well.i’ll call him& he usually does not answer. sometimes he does& we tlk for about 30min. i’ll text him& our conversation usaully lasts about 5min.i know i can be clingy as well, but i can’t help but wanting to hangout with him; or tlk to him. when i ask him to hangout; he is always busy,i understand tht he is busy; tht sometimes he cannot tlk on the phone,& sometimes cannot hangout. but i dont understand tht he is always busy. too busy to even see me.but lately; i feel tht he is making up excuses .i love him;& am just confused about ‘us’.i don’t want to take a break, or leave him.

Resolved Question: HELP!!! RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS!!!!!!!!!!!!? 6 Mar 2010, 12:57 pm

Okay. so theres this guy whos like one of my best guy friends, and my friends say we look cute together. my friend says we should go out but im not sure about it. hes always staring/smiling at me. and when i try to fist-bump him he just gives me a big, warm hug. hes pretty cute, and hes my best-best-friend-forever’s cousin.. when he does hug me i feel really…safe. like then we smile at eachother. and when my friends talk about us and how we should go out hes like “nah, man, we shouldnt.” with this HUGE smile on his face and then he looks down, we always sit by eachother on the same chair at lunch. Should we go out?? Does he really like me?? UGH. IM CONFUSED. thank you guys in advanced. much love to you:)

Resolved Question: Relationship problem( kind of a long read )? 6 Mar 2010, 5:47 am

Ok so we are both seniors in HS and have been going out for 2 weeks.She has a 17 mo baby.A week into our dating she told me she loved me. I told her I’m happy she does but I don’t love her yet but that could change. She was upset at first and saying she should never have told me, but she’s okay now.I am getting closer to loving her but I’m going in the air force after graduation and am afraid of getting attached to her. But it’s happening anyway( getting attached to her). I told her this last night and she got very upset with me and asked why are we even going out then if I’m afraid of getting attached. She wants me to not feel I shouldn’t get attached with her because of the air force.She told me she ain’t talking to me no more unless I decide what I want to do.Is she right? Should I stop being afraid of getting close to her in fear of loseing yer when I leave?She put alot of pressure on me last night and I don’t really know what to say her to.I do want to try to make things work between us when I leave.*say to her

Resolved Question: Relationship Problems? 5 Mar 2010, 4:18 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been having problems. We were together almost 4 years, broke up for 2 months, and then got back together. It’s been three months since we got back together. He’s been telling me he needs his space, I respect that and I’ve been giving him space. Recently though I feel like I’m not important to him. A week ago he threw a party. I didn’t even know about the party until the next day. He said he just wanted to party with his friends and that I’m not his friend, I’m his girlfriend. He’s my best friend and that made me feel like I don’t even rank on his top 10. Yesterday we were suppose to spend time together, but when I get there he said we couldn’t go anywhere because he was waiting for a couple of his friends to come by. I’m like ok cool whatever, but they didn’t show and didn’t show, so I went out and brought us lunch back. Eventually (4-5 hours later) he says they aren’t responding to his texts and that we can go where ever I want to go. We start talking about different ideas and then they knock on the door. Now we aren’t going anywhere, I’m alienated from the conversation, and I eventually leave. Today he was in my neighborhood visiting his family, and he doesn’t even stop by my place to see me. Ever since he asked for space, I’m lucky if I get to see him twice a week.Is there actually a problem here? Or am I just being too sensitive?I know I’m a clingy person, I’m really trying to work on it. I just need to know if all this is me taking something small and blowing it up or if this is truly a problem that I’m not entirely to blame for.

Resolved Question: im extremely depressed due to relationship problems? 5 Mar 2010, 3:23 pm

is this normal? idk how i let this take over my life. i feel like no one in the world will ever want me. any suggestions?