Relationship Tips

Resolved Question: Need relationship advice please help? 3 Sep 2010, 10:43 am

I have been on and off with a girl for 7 years and when we were about 3 years into the relationship I chose to follow her to the college she was going to (in hopes of keeping the relationship alive). Well anyway from the start she didn’t spend as much time with me as I would have wanted and we started arguing and fighting all the time… she ended up dumping me and cut off all contact with me for about a month. I moved back home (about an hour away) and went to community college for a year while starting to talk to her again and we patched things up. I made the 2 hour roundtrip drive hundreds of times to see her, she never came back to see me once. I completed community college and decided that I was going to go to the college I had wanted to go to since I was 5 which was 1200 miles away. I figured we were already long distance so it wouldnt have mattered. We weren’t going out when I left but she didn’t want to get back together either. Since I left my grades have gone up, I built a successful business, and love the weather out here. In all the time I’ve been out here, she hasn’t come to see me once and refuses to. She also is telling me she’ll never leave her family and move out of state. I told her thats fine but I’m not moving to where she lives again to get dumped again by her. The problem is she still texts me all the time to see what I’m doing, she always says she wants to talk but all she says is the same thing that she isn’t going to leave and I should just deal with it.What do you think I should do?

Resolved Question: i’ve got a big problem in serious need of relationship advice? 2 Sep 2010, 10:05 pm

i’ve been going out with this girl for the past 7 months and things are getting pretty serious , i really like her but things got really weird last week after a party . she was drunk and my parents were away so i took her back to my house , things were getting pretty hot until i felt something hard poking me in the stomach. i reached down curious to find out what it was , she pushed me away and confronted me with a truth … she has a penis , i really like her but i’m finding this very strange, any advice would help.

Resolved Question: Relationship advice… is this worth it? (short – please help, need opinions)? 2 Sep 2010, 2:38 pm

Hey.. Been with my boyfriend for 7 months, we have a great time, basically when its good its really good.problem is he has a lot of self confident issues, doesnt believe me when I say he’s hot even though in my eyes he’s the sexiest man alive, I compliment him all the time as does he, he treats me like a princess, I try my best to make him feel special, nothing works.Theres the old saying “how can you love someone if you dont love yourself”this gets me down.. am I being selfish… he always rejects my compliments and thinks he’s shit in bed when he’s not. other than this I love the guy and I try my hardest. PLEASE HELP.

Resolved Question: Relationship advice please help? 1 Sep 2010, 3:09 pm

I have been on and off with a girl for 7 years and when we were about 3 years into the relationship I chose to follow her to the college she was going to (in hopes of keeping the relationship alive). Well anyway from the start she didn’t spend as much time with me as I would have wanted and we started arguing and fighting all the time… she ended up dumping me and cut off all contact with me for about a month. I moved back home (about an hour away) and went to community college for a year while starting to talk to her again and we patched things up. I made the 2 hour roundtrip drive hundreds of times to see her, she never came back to see me once. I completed community college and decided that I was going to go to the college I had wanted to go to since I was 5 which was 1200 miles away. I figured we were already long distance so it wouldnt have mattered. We weren’t going out when I left but she didn’t want to get back together either. Since I left my grades have gone up, I built a successful business, and love the weather out here. In all the time I’ve been out here, she hasn’t come to see me once and refuses to. She also is telling me she’ll never leave her family and move out of state. I told her thats fine but I’m not moving to where she lives again to get dumped again by her. The problem is she still texts me all the time to see what I’m doing, she always says she wants to talk but all she says is the same thing that she isn’t going to leave and I should just deal with it.What do you think I should do?

Resolved Question: I need relationship advice. lying? 1 Sep 2010, 8:26 am

Ive noticed my girlfriend acting strange the past two weeks or so, she has been less emotionally attached to me it seems. One day while looking at her phone, a text popped up from my best friend. I dont remember what it said at the time, but nothing bad. i just found it weird that my girlfriend and best friend were texting each other, i had no idea. Thoughout the next few days i have found her wandering to his work alot when he is working and texting and talking to him more and more. Last night when she told me she was home doing homework, i found out she was down at the park with a group of my friends. I went down to the park without telling her, just to see what was going on. When i arrived, i saw her and my best friend on the swings together, alone. I called her and asked what she was doing, she now admitted to being down at the park, but insisted she was with a large group of my friends just hanging out. when i could clearly see just 2 people. I was mad at her for being down there with my friend. it is weird to me. Then she told me she was going home. I said goodbye and i watched her leave. At first, she walked up to my best friend and embraced him for at least a minute and a half. then they started walking together to her car. i called her and asked her why he was walking her to her car, she said that he wasnt. then i showed myself to them. I caught her lying to me twice. I walked over to where they were and told my friend to walk away before i hurt him. then i kicked a trashcan over.After all this, neither of them say that anything was happening unusual.My question to you is, did i do something wrong? Am i just being over-protective?Should i give her another chance? Him? She has lied to me before about similar matters. I feel depressed and cant eat or sleep. i stayed home from school today so i didnt have to see either of them. I am a 17 year old male. Please help me..Thank you everyone for the advice and support!