Relationship Tips

Resolved Question: relationship advice needed pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee asap? 8 Mar 2010, 2:39 pm

okay so I posted a previous question and it makes me mad that i get like 3 replies at the most. :/ anyways this might be a little long but people say i need more detail in it. so here it goes. I was with my ex for almost a year. I loved him. But towards the end we started arguing and broke up. About a month after i couldn’t handle seeing him and not getting over him so i tried to be with someone else who i have been with for 5 months now. He got so mad at me for getting with someone else so fast. All his friends hated me. still do. My ex still has my heart. But my current bf is an amazing guy who adores me but I’m starting to not feel as into him as i was before. Me and my ex have been talking recently and he admitted he still loves me. Only problem is we are both in a relationship.. I feel so guilty for talking to my ex but it’s like all the feelings came back and now i feel miserable and depressed. I don’t want to hurt my current it would devastate him..what do i do? please give me decent advice not just a few wordssssssss

Resolved Question: Relationship advice..Please Help!!? 8 Mar 2010, 9:00 am

Last night, me and my boyfriend were talking about something his friend did. Basically, we went out with his friend, and his friend left his fiance in the middle of the night, not even asking/texting if she was ok. As we spoke about it, he stated “not even my brother would do that to his girl.” I then told him, “I know. You (meaning my boyfriend) wouldn’t do that to me.” He got upset and told me, “Why do you always have to bring us up. This is the second time you said that.”Well, I got upset because I was giving him a compliment, meaning he would not leave me stranded in the middle of nowhere. Anyhow, I ended up ignoring him the whole night, and I am starting to believe he is emotionally unavailable. (This is not the first time he says these types of outburst) I am fed up and am thinking of breaking up, but the problem is we have a trip scheduled in april. I don’t know how to approach this and need help!!!!

Resolved Question: Personality issues and relationship advice please? 8 Mar 2010, 8:11 am

I was told by a friend, that I’m trying too hard to impress that person that I really like, and he told me that I should stop trying so hard…although I don’t know how to not try to impress.In other words: to impress that person, I have to stop trying to impress him…My drive has always been to impress people: my boss, my college teachers, my family. I’ve always been the best student, the best project management intern, but those are things that I did naturally…my purpose was not to impress them.When I started studying mechanical engineering…I did it because I knew I could impress my teachers…which kinda backfired cuz I was trying so hard that I didn’t even focus on what really mattered…but I’m finally graduating. And when it comes to my friends, I don’t try to impress them, they just like me for who I am, but this person…he used to like me for who I was…but things changed…and I dont know when did I start trying to get his attention, and I’m aware it is irritant and not atractive. But I don’t know how to stop.And I’m talking about the person whom I’ve admired the most in my whole life, he’s like a friend+role model+advisor, (he’s 4 years older), but things have changed in the past few months, we’ve had a not serious relationship for almost two years, but we saw each other like every six months cuz he studied at another country. He finally finished and is living here permanently since july 2009…and I think I’m loosing him…In order to get to him…I have to change some things…he told a friend of ours that he thinks that I lack initiative, that I’m not an “alpha”, not a leader, he thinks that I’m codependent, but I’m not…I just get I dunno, like nervous around him.I don’t know if you people get my point, but do you have any advice about this?Ok I should rewrite that paragraph:I’ve always impressed people: my boss, my college teachers, my family. I’ve always been the best student, the best project management intern, but those are things that I did naturally…my purpose was not to impress them. But lately, I’ve been try to do so, actively, and it kinda backfires.Concerned citizen: I think you’re right…when I do this naturally, spontaneously, people like that, but people (even I do) think that I try to be overbearing or so when I try too hard.

Resolved Question: Relationship advice ASAP? PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE? 8 Mar 2010, 6:42 am

I’m sorry if it looks a little long i made it short as possible.I’ve currently been with a guy for a good 5 months now. Before him i was with someone else for almost a year but things started getting messed up and we handled things wrong. Anyways me and my ex have been talking and we understand the things we should have fixed and now we know what to not do. I haven’t been feeling the same for my current even though he adores me, my heart just isn’t his. I feel so guilty for it. My ex says he still loves me and feels the same, the only problem is we are both in a relationship. So we decided to talk as friends and see how it goes. I feel wrong for talking to him but at the same time i miss it so much. PLEASE HELP MEE! what would you do if you were me?

Resolved Question: Relationship advice needed from girls ( ok guys too )? 7 Mar 2010, 5:59 pm

A girl I have been talking with for a little over a month and gone out a few times is now playing hard to get, how do I beat her at the game and gain her approval to move to the next level? Any help is greatly appreciated.A little info: last night was our third date and when I met up at the bar she was already having fun if you know what I mean LOL and was all over the place having a good time. I had a few beers and left around 12 and told her friend she was with to say bye since she was mingling with others (all good since we are not an item as of yet – dont want to be clingy) anyways approx. 20 minutes later I get a call from her girlfriend – that they are leaving and the girl I am interested in was upset that I left and wanted me to know that she is interested and wants me to step up my game with her. I need to know how to do this, been out of the dating scene for a long while.So I called her today around 2pm and she did not answer, left message. She called me back around 730 pm and said she was out with the girls – so I did not ask her since it did not seem like the right time. We both told each other to have a good night. Please advice me how I should play this out. Thanks